Lets be honest, no one has his or her life together.
Throughout my teenage years, one common phrase that I always heard was ‘I really need to get my life together’ or simply ‘I need to get my shit together’. Its quite funny how this phrase eventually became a catch phrase for myself, at any moment that I thought my life wasn’t ‘perfect’ I would think to myself ‘ok, I really need to get my life together’. But what happened was, one day I was on my way to work on the train. I remember I was thinking about how terrible my life was, because I was not sure what I wanted to do for my career, was unsure of who my close friends was, was living a life where everyday was so repetitive and boring and was in a toxic relationship that held no meaning. Then something hit me, it was like a sudden hit of realisation. Yes, my life was a mess…and you know what, not much has changed since then. But what changed was my mindset, I no longer think to myself that ‘I have to get my shit together’ or ‘I need to get my life together’. Why? Because I finally figured that no one has their life together because who knows what that even is? Who can truly say that their life is perfect, I mean, surely we all have moments where we think our lives are perfect. But how long does that last? I can confidently say, not a lifetime. Because, that’s life, life comes with ups and downs and life is a constant journey of figuring out your shit and trying to get your ‘life together’. I mean, without that, what would life be? Without all the ‘struggles’ and ‘getting my life together moments’ how would we truly appreciate and cherish the better times in life?
Personally, I believe in timing more than anything. I think there is definitely a time and place for everything and that everyone has a different life, hence, things all happen at different times. I was reading this quote online one day and it really enlightened me and allowed me to feel more at ease with everything that was going on in my life. The quote wrote
‘You’re not behind in life. There’s no schedule or timetable that we all must follow. It’s all made up. Wherever you are right now is exactly where you need to be. Seven billion people can’t do everything in exactly the same scheduled order’. Read this and re read it until it is embedded in your mind because in todays era, most people forget this and become upset or frustrated because certain things are happening to others and not them.
I completely understand that living in this day and age, it is so hard to try and ignore all these ‘societal expectations’ because everyone on social media seems to be living the ‘perfect life’ and when you look at yourself you wonder why your not like them. But one thing you have to remember is that, you can never truly have your life together and life will never be perfect. It will only be truly perfect when you stop focusing on it and living each day in the present and moment. Realising that what is meant to be, will come at the right time and right place. Be patient, smile a little more and keep being you.